Part I: Signs therapists use to predict divorce
You’re pretty sure about your choice of spouse, but you want to be completely sure. You’ve got a few problems to work out, and the weeks before the wedding seems like the perfect time to talk things over. Those are some of the reasons couples go hand-in-hand to see pre-marital counselors.
They want to be sure and they want to be happy as the big day approaches. Those counselors, on the other hand, have an entirely different perspective. Some of the couples have serious relationship problems that need more than a few weeks of therapeutic work to fix. Other couples look like two collision-bound trains headed in slow motion first toward the altar and then toward a divorce. Let’s take a glance at some of the signs therapists see in mismatched couples.
One therapist told the Huffington Post that some of the couples she sees “ignore the red warning flags waving in their face…and plow straight into a marriage that seems doomed from the start.” Here are some of those red flags:
- Immaturity: when one of the potential spouses exhibits “signs of extreme selfishness and immaturity,” the red flag is raised, one therapist said. Marriage requires degrees of selflessness and sacrifice and a willingness on both sides to take the high road when disagreements arise.
- Trustworthiness: issues involving mistrust won’t be solved by taking wedding vows, a counselor said. If there is distrust before the wedding, expect trust issues in the marriage to “be its ultimate undoing.”
If you and your spouse have come to the point of ultimate undoing, speak about your unique set of circumstances with an experienced family law attorney who knows how to resolve issues in negotiations. Be sure that that same attorney also has experience in litigation, however, because sometimes an untrustworthy or immature spouse simply cannot resolve divorce disputes anywhere but in court.
We’ll have more on this topic in a future post. Until then, please take a look at our Family Law Services page to learn more about the Las Vegas divorce attorneys of the Kainen Law Group.